But if you are considering him as possible life-partner, it’s good to know what you’re getting into, so you can decide, very consciously, whether you want to wade into deeper levels of commitment with him.Here are some questions to consider: Did he leave Was there infidelity? It’s good to know why they decided to split up and how the split went.Or if really bitter about the divorce, his unresolved feelings about the divorce might affect your relationship.If he has kids, then you want to know what the arrangement is, so you can know what to expect when it comes to him providing childcare, and communication with the mother of his children.He might have been divorced for a year and totally over his ex-wife, and the situation and they have is an amicable co-parenting agreement.
You probably have a million questions on your mind. With that said, if you meet someone you’re really attracted to, but the ink on his divorce papers hasn’t yet had time to dry, you are going to need to approach some things differently if you want to minimize the risk of getting your heart broken.
But if you find when you’re actually on a date, your partner is clearly preoccupied with his recent divorce, then he might not be emotionally available right now.
Relationship fallout takes time to heal, and how long that healing takes depends on each individual.
What are your needs, wants, and requirements for a fulfilling relationship, and how divorced or separated are the least likely to be emotionally available for a new relationship.
This is because they might still be recovering from their recent breakup; the painful emotions, anger, and sense of loss might still be very fresh and raw. It really depends on where his readiness is, and whether your experience of him meets your relationship requirements.